For some of us, being feminine doesn’t come naturally. Let’s face it we live in an era that encourages us to be more masculine. The epitome of success and ambition is masculine, right? Well, no, but I’ll come back to that topic.
I was born naturally feminine. I was definitely a girly girl, and other than being competitive, I had no desire to keep up with my brothers. As the only girl in my family, I was definitely different, and I was okay with that. I loved to dance and bake with my mother. I loved sewing and creating , and wearing dresses, and all things pretty and pink. Fast forward to high school with acne and horrible regulation green school dresses with wait for it, nylon high waist panties. Really, can you imagine anything worse than green, thick elasticated panties? Still even though at an all girls school I was definitely taught about conquering the world, yet I still kept my very feminine qualities.
Women were created to be strong, empowered and formidable, not in spite of your sex, but because of it. True feminine beauty is sourced from deep with a woman and is manifested through our emotions, actions and thoughts when in complete harmony with our purpose as a woman.
Here are my suggestions to enhance your femininity:
Take Care of Yourself
Sounds obvious until you think about just how many roles the modern woman has to play in her daily life at work and home. That’s why the first rule of being a woman who’s in touch with her femininity is to take care of yourself regardless of what’s happening in your life right now. To truly understand the meaning of it, let me give you an example.
Say you have a husband, two kids and a promising career in marketing. You don’t want to lose your job and you love your family, but feel so exhausted and cranky all the time! How are you going to take care of your children and advance in your career at the same time?
Only by putting your needs first.
This doesn’t mean neglecting your children or quitting your job because you’re in a bad mood. It means taking good care of your looks, health, and wellbeing. Trust me, when you look after yourself regularly, you will have more energy and everything else will fall into place.
Dress Like a Lady
A couple of years ago, I used to wear almost only jeans and suits. When I first started getting in touch with my femininity, wearing a dress or a skirt sounded a little bit silly. But I then realized why dresses are so important for us, women. The moment I began to wear dresses, I somehow felt more soft, feminine, playful, and relaxed.
We underestimate the impact our choice of clothes has on how we feel and behave as women. You may have some resistance at first, but when you get used to it, you will often prefer wearing a dress over putting on jeans.
Trust Men
Trust issues with men can be a huge problem for unlocking your femininity. If you really want to feel loved and appreciated, you need to open your heart first. I’m sure you’ve had your fair share of heartbreaks, but the only way to live your life to the fullest is to trust men. Appreciate them, thank them, admire them, love them.
It’s really hard to trust someone especially after you’ve been betrayed so many times. But trust isn’t about the other person, it’s about you. No matter how many times you’ve been rejected or lied to, your feminine nature is to be open and warm. If you close your heart to the possibility of love, you will never experience the joy of love until you open up again.
Update your hairstyle/makeup.
Again, outward changes can affect how you feel internally.
If you’re not sure what will help you embrace your feminine side, ask your hairdresser for some tips.
They know how to look at faces objectively and will help you work out what will best accentuate your eyes or jaw line.
This can really help you embrace different aspects of your personality that you might not have considered before.
They can help you achieve whatever looks you’ve researched and help you find a style that is comfortable and really gives off a glam, womanly vibe.
You can also try doing your makeup differently — Google a woman who you see as very feminine and see how they look.
They may wear a lot of lipstick, which may be something you think makes them look womanly and can try yourself.
Replicating what society sees as ‘feminine’ can also help you feel more like you’re achieving it too.
If you try to blend in with the general stereotype for a bit, you can see how you feel about it.
From there, you can then find your own ways to express your femininity.
Get in touch with your inner vixen!
A huge aspect of femininity is sensuality. That’s not sexuality, per se, but it’s about being sexy and seductive, having a bit of a feminine mystique.
That might sound ridiculous and a million miles away from how you currently feel, but it’s worth exploring.
Scent is hugely evocative, so play with perfumes and see what makes you feel sensual.
You could try loads of different things — wear sexy underwear under your work clothes and see how much more confident you feel.
And don’t be scared of being more flirty on nights out and see how attractive it may make you feel!
Being a woman is about embracing who you are and having fun with it, so don’t be scared to experiment, play around with it, and see what feels good.
Hold yourself like a lady.
Your posture says a lot about you, and it can even show how feminine or masculine you are.
If you often find yourself slouching or spreading yourself out a lot, you could be giving off quite a masculine vibe.
It might sound silly, but even this small amount of body language can show how you feel about yourself and how feminine you are.
If you want to appear more feminine, try sitting more daintily — cross your legs or ankles, sit straight up and hold yourself with grace.
This isn’t about making yourself smaller or hiding yourself, it’s just about projecting that stereotypical feminine vibe — dainty, classy and elegant.
Walk the walk.
Again, the way we move says a lot about how we feel about ourselves.
If you’re someone who tends to shy away and stumbles around a bit with their head down, you’re not giving off the appearance of a strong woman in charge of her destiny!
Try to carry yourself with a bit more grace, head up, walk with intent, and show the world who’s boss.
Part of being a feminine woman is having confidence in your decisions, so walk like you’re on a mission and don’t be afraid of taking up some space and making an entrance.
Talk the talk.
We’ve gone into some detail on using your body language to engage with your feminine side, but what about spoken language?
We’re not saying you instantly have to become a giggly cloud of perfume and simpering lisps, but how you talk and audibly react says a lot about you, so it’s worth thinking about!
You can try out a few different tones of voice and see what works for you — it doesn’t need to be squeaky and high-pitched, but if your low voice is something that makes you feel masculine, you could experiment with lighter tones.
Use more feminine words, make your sentences a little bit longer and don’t be scared of the sound of your own voice!
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Think about how you interact with others.
A lot of women who struggle to feel feminine don’t really know how to act, especially around people they find attractive.
If you feel quite masculine and want to get a man’s attention, for example, you might feel too frumpy or unsexy or manly.
This is natural and a lot of women feel this way, but there are ways you can change this and work on your self-confidence!
Again, this isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about finding a different way to present it.
A lot of men love women who are bold and flirty, so don’t be scared to try out some gentle touching.
If you’re out on a date, for example, you can lightly touch their arm when you’re talking to them, or sit close to them so your knees brush.
Little things like this show that you’re in touch with your sensuality and womanhood, and the man you’re with will really start to see you that way even more.
If that sounds too daunting and weird, try it out with a close friend first! They may not be blown away and suddenly want to kiss you, but it’ll help you relax into being a bit more touchy-feely if this all very new to you.
Don’t be scared to be sexy.
A lot of women who struggle to feel or act feminine are quite scared of being sexy.
They don’t want to be seen as promiscuous or act as though their sexuality is their only charm.
Being feminine is all about finding the balance — you can be sexy and smart, sexy and cute, sexy and funny.
Being in touch with your sexual side doesn’t mean you’re instantly put in a box and only have one dimension to your personality!
Get a little bit flirty, wear something a bit bolder, and don’t be scared to be playful with it all.
Again, a lot of people interpret femininity with confidence and the liberation of women doing what they want, so do what feels good and enjoy it.
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Fake it till you make it.
It can be really hard to know how you feel about things sometimes, but it’s worth pretending at first.
If you can convince others that you suit bright red lipstick, you’ll start to convince yourself.
If you act confident and openly flirt a bit, people will assume that’s just how you are and you’ll then start to be that way.
Practice makes perfect, so keep going if it feels good!
You’ll work out what fits your personality and what feels too uncomfortable to do long-term.
As you do this, you’ll find new bits of your authentic self that have been hiding all along, and you’ll uncover bits of yourself that are truly feminine…
So, there are a lot of ways to express your inner femininity and get more in touch with that side of your personality.
Remember why you want to do this and it’ll make the whole process more enjoyable.
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Originally published at https://www.relationshiptips.us on November 5, 2020.
